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LGBTQ+ Support Thread
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maybe i'm not gender apathetic. maybe i'm nonbinary. maybe...
heyoo im bisexual & gender queer. i discovered i was bisexual last year around april-ish. and gender queer like last month. i first identified as gender queer next agender female & back to gender queer. i was confused between the two cuz they seemed so similar to me. i can express the feminine side of me but i dont have so many masculine clothes. so by the end of the year i hope i have more of that.
and i go by she/they pronouns. this school year so far i had two sets of crushes at different times,2 at the start & current time. one being a guy & one being a girl. but the girl ive had crushes on are probably straight lol.
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and i go by she/they pronouns. this school year so far i had two sets of crushes at different times,2 at the start & current time. one being a guy & one being a girl. but the girl ive had crushes on are probably straight lol.
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Ig this is more of a rant but ayo lgbtq+ support thread it’s what it’s here for
One thing that has been on my mind recently is just my relationship with my identity.
A lot of people who are properly familiar with me here probably do know I am in fact a lesbian, but it’s not something I often scream from the top of my lungs and make a fuss out of. This is because, for me, my identity is nothing important or special. When I realised I was into girls, and grew older, that was just something I decided I wanted to be normal. So it just is lol. Often I forget straight is the norm LMAO. Online, it’s so easy to just act this way, because practically everyone is either lgbtq+, an ally, or someone who will bully a homophobe out of existence.
The issue comes irl though. I don’t think my relationship with my sexuality is a happy one. It’s sad. People I feel close and safe with know I’m a lesbian. That’s it. Because to me, I never wanted to have a “coming out moment”. I never wanted to have to announce to people that I’m gay. I just wanted to be able to go “I have a girlfriend” and everyone around me would just be like that’s so cool of you congrats bestie xox. That’s actually how I came out to a couple of my irl friends, when I was dating my ex. It was a nice way to come out, because it felt normal.
My dad doesn’t know I’m a lesbian. This is the main issue for me. He is not homophobic, in fact I had to actually try and explain to him once why people don’t accept trans and non-binary people because he couldn’t grasp the concept of not being okay with people’s identities, and he also once told me if I was gay, he would support me no matter what. It’s not that I don’t trust him. The thing is I want to be able to do that same thing with him, where I reveal it in such a normal way, that it would feel like a “straight person coming out” moment. But I don’t have a girlfriend. So instead, it doesn’t feel like a normal thing, it feels like something I’m actively keeping a secret, which is the opposite of what I want it to be. Because to me it isn’t a secret, it’s not something I’m ashamed of, it’s just something I wish everyone else saw the same way as I do. And because they don’t, it’s becoming what I don’t want it to be
Hope that made sense lol
One thing that has been on my mind recently is just my relationship with my identity.
A lot of people who are properly familiar with me here probably do know I am in fact a lesbian, but it’s not something I often scream from the top of my lungs and make a fuss out of. This is because, for me, my identity is nothing important or special. When I realised I was into girls, and grew older, that was just something I decided I wanted to be normal. So it just is lol. Often I forget straight is the norm LMAO. Online, it’s so easy to just act this way, because practically everyone is either lgbtq+, an ally, or someone who will bully a homophobe out of existence.
The issue comes irl though. I don’t think my relationship with my sexuality is a happy one. It’s sad. People I feel close and safe with know I’m a lesbian. That’s it. Because to me, I never wanted to have a “coming out moment”. I never wanted to have to announce to people that I’m gay. I just wanted to be able to go “I have a girlfriend” and everyone around me would just be like that’s so cool of you congrats bestie xox. That’s actually how I came out to a couple of my irl friends, when I was dating my ex. It was a nice way to come out, because it felt normal.
My dad doesn’t know I’m a lesbian. This is the main issue for me. He is not homophobic, in fact I had to actually try and explain to him once why people don’t accept trans and non-binary people because he couldn’t grasp the concept of not being okay with people’s identities, and he also once told me if I was gay, he would support me no matter what. It’s not that I don’t trust him. The thing is I want to be able to do that same thing with him, where I reveal it in such a normal way, that it would feel like a “straight person coming out” moment. But I don’t have a girlfriend. So instead, it doesn’t feel like a normal thing, it feels like something I’m actively keeping a secret, which is the opposite of what I want it to be. Because to me it isn’t a secret, it’s not something I’m ashamed of, it’s just something I wish everyone else saw the same way as I do. And because they don’t, it’s becoming what I don’t want it to be
Hope that made sense lol
i get that. i'm not gonna make a great big fuss and act like it's not normal, bc it is. if it naturally comes up, i'll mention it (or introduce my gf if i had one TT) but that's it. nobody owes anybody a "coming out moment"
The whole coming out thing just… shouldn’t be a thing if you ask me.
One thing I find interesting is how society is absolutely appauled at the idea of asexuals, but they also just believe their children are straight. How are they uncomfortable with the idea of a child deciding they don’t want sex, while simultaneously labelling them as a sexuality??
To me, children should just be asexual. Full stop. Even if we don’t label them that way, society should think of children as asexual. Then, everyone would have a “coming out” moment when they’re old enough to realise what they want. And that can also change as they get older. That’s why I wanted to just be able to tell my dad in that natural way, because I didn’t want it to be any different to how a straight child would reveal their interests too. I hope one day soon I can just bring it up so it doesn’t feel like I’m purposefully hiding it
right! ppl sexualize children wayyyy too much.
and i had an idea; obviously this may not work for you, but maybe if you have a crush on anyone you could mention it to your dad? like, the same way a straight kid would casually mention a crush, you could do the same. idk, just an idea lol
i was right lol. i'm nonbinary and go by they/them now (still a lesbian, tho)
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bisexual, she/her or any pronouns
maybe i need to say that i think i'm not bisexual but abrosexual
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as long as youre happy then thats the good part, bisexual or not, abrosexual or not
it's lesbian visibility week!
Finally. I’ve been so tired of being invisible. Gotta make this week count /j
ikr! be gay, do crimes on friday so they can't catch me later
I'm bi and she/her
i'm planning on asking my dad on how he feels about the LGBTQ+ Community this month in may and if he's fine with it or something like that I'm going to come out to him during Pride Month but I'm scared and I don't know how to do it.
i'm planning on asking my dad on how he feels about the LGBTQ+ Community this month in may and if he's fine with it or something like that I'm going to come out to him during Pride Month but I'm scared and I don't know how to do it.
hi! good luck with coming out to your dad ^^
friendly reminder that you don't owe anybody "transness," ie, if you're a trans guy, you don't owe anyone masculinity. if you're a trans girl, you don't owe anyone femininity. if you're nonbinary, you don't owe anyone androgyny and so forth ^^
it's almost pride month...
i'm honestly rly excited bc this is gonna be the first time i can actually celebrate pride month and be out and proud for it. and even tho stores and brands just use pride month as a once a year way to make extra money, i'm still a sucker and will buying at least a couple rainbow things lol
i'm honestly rly excited bc this is gonna be the first time i can actually celebrate pride month and be out and proud for it. and even tho stores and brands just use pride month as a once a year way to make extra money, i'm still a sucker and will buying at least a couple rainbow things lol
Not gonna lie, I think I'm going through an identity crisis.
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