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If it brings people here comfort, since I’m seeing quite a few people saying they don’t know their sexuality.

You don’t owe anyone your sexuality. You don’t have to know yourself. I think there is a lot of emphasis from people online who want social currency to label as many things about themselves as possible so that they can express that they’re different from other people. In reality, sexuality just doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. When I was younger, I wanted that label because I wanted to know who I was. I clung to the label so desperately because it felt like who I was and who I had to be. I experienced a lot of confusion because my mum would emphasise things like “it might change” or “you don’t know yet” and it caused me a lot of stress. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve put less and less emphasis on my sexuality for myself. I won’t lie and say I don’t struggle with identity issues at all, but there’s a lot less stress for me now. Personally I know right now I 100% like women, and I have no interest in guys, but I ended up preferring the label sapphic because it can account for any dating I choose, because at the end of the day liking women while being a woman is the only criteria for being sapphic. But, even that still counts as a label. You don’t need one at all if you don’t want one or haven’t found one you feel comfortable with. Just date who you want to date! If you like someone that’s great! You might feel more free in your life by just following your heart instead of a definition given to you online :)
 
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yunaing said:
If it brings people here comfort, since I’m seeing quite a few people saying they don’t know their sexuality.

You don’t owe anyone your sexuality. You don’t have to know yourself. I think there is a lot of emphasis from people online who want social currency to label as many things about themselves as possible so that they can express that they’re different from other people. In reality, sexuality just doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. When I was younger, I wanted that label because I wanted to know who I was. I clung to the label so desperately because it felt like who I was and who I had to be. I experienced a lot of confusion because my mum would emphasise things like “it might change” or “you don’t know yet” and it caused me a lot of stress. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve put less and less emphasis on my sexuality for myself. I won’t lie and say I don’t struggle with identity issues at all, but there’s a lot less stress for me now. Personally I know right now I 100% like women, and I have no interest in guys, but I ended up preferring the label sapphic because it can account for any dating I choose, because at the end of the day liking women while being a woman is the only criteria for being sapphic. But, even that still counts as a label. You don’t need one at all if you don’t want one or haven’t found one you feel comfortable with. Just date who you want to date! If you like someone that’s great! You might feel more free in your life by just following your heart instead of a definition given to you online :)
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This is so sweet Miel. Thank you so much. <3
 
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