Hmm how do I exactly put what I want to say here
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You're perfect, even when you don't feel like it at times (Idk how to what I want to say here in words)
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You're perfect, even when you don't feel like it at times (Idk how to what I want to say here in words)
My dad plays favourites, even though he won't admit it. He treats my oldest younger brother like he's some kind of royalty, and me… well it's like I'm some kind of obstacle or something. While I'm annoyed that my bro gets all the attention, I'm also worried for him.
I'm always pressured to study and get good grades since I'm the oldest and when I don't dad obviously starts pointing out that my bro's better than me. But when he grows older and becomes around my age (I'm a middle schooler) I'm worried dad will play favourites with him and my youngest bro who'll be a first grader (which is my other bro's current age). I'm worried that dad will put too much pressure on him and invalidate his feelings like he does to mine. That he'll constantly have to be 'perfect' and live up to dad's standards. That he'll be treated like he doesn't exist or anything. That he'll also start stressing out like I did and go to drastic measures. That he'll end up feeling emotionally insecure and he won't be able to open up about his struggles to anyone else in my family.
I don't even know what else to mention at this point but I do wish that there would be some way for me to reach out for him if this does start happening
I'm always pressured to study and get good grades since I'm the oldest and when I don't dad obviously starts pointing out that my bro's better than me. But when he grows older and becomes around my age (I'm a middle schooler) I'm worried dad will play favourites with him and my youngest bro who'll be a first grader (which is my other bro's current age). I'm worried that dad will put too much pressure on him and invalidate his feelings like he does to mine. That he'll constantly have to be 'perfect' and live up to dad's standards. That he'll be treated like he doesn't exist or anything. That he'll also start stressing out like I did and go to drastic measures. That he'll end up feeling emotionally insecure and he won't be able to open up about his struggles to anyone else in my family.
I don't even know what else to mention at this point but I do wish that there would be some way for me to reach out for him if this does start happening
i swear i secretly want to leave that friend group ☠
one is putting us in a shitty situtation and leave us like "get over it"
and the two others are acting like nothing happened
one of them also said "we shouldn't worry"
idk what to do anymore- i feel like i will leave this school with that problem still going on
like when you hide things from me, when you lie to me, to us, is this a real friendship anymore?
or i think we all want to continue bc we're scared about the fact that people of our class find out about this stuff, this stuff about *us*, the friend group who never had issues or problems between the "members"
honestly i'm also scared of that but why hiding it
then if i have to be the mean girl here okay why not (no but i really feel that it will end up like this-)
if i have to do this at least to resolve this problem, then why not?
one is putting us in a shitty situtation and leave us like "get over it"
and the two others are acting like nothing happened
one of them also said "we shouldn't worry"
idk what to do anymore- i feel like i will leave this school with that problem still going on
like when you hide things from me, when you lie to me, to us, is this a real friendship anymore?
or i think we all want to continue bc we're scared about the fact that people of our class find out about this stuff, this stuff about *us*, the friend group who never had issues or problems between the "members"
honestly i'm also scared of that but why hiding it
then if i have to be the mean girl here okay why not (no but i really feel that it will end up like this-)
if i have to do this at least to resolve this problem, then why not?
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same
i wish i could do more to help them
Ikr like send them a little gift to make it better or something like that yk
my parents truly understand nothing
i was out today with my friend. my dad told me to go back home at 2 pm but i finished school at 12 pm and i didn't have time so i went back home at 3pm
so he decided to ground me. now i can't go out till the end of the year bc i "betrayed his trust on me"
i said that he doesn't want to understand how i feel and he said that he doesn't care.
"revise".
so i was crying rn and now my moms told me that i cry for nothing and that we're moving in june and its not a big deal if i cant see my friends outside school
then they ask me why don't u have motivation
i'm tired. really i can't do this anymore
does someone understand me irl?
no more phone. no more tv. no more ipad. no more contacts with my friends outside school. at this point, i truly hate how my life became like this.
i was out today with my friend. my dad told me to go back home at 2 pm but i finished school at 12 pm and i didn't have time so i went back home at 3pm
so he decided to ground me. now i can't go out till the end of the year bc i "betrayed his trust on me"
i said that he doesn't want to understand how i feel and he said that he doesn't care.
"revise".
so i was crying rn and now my moms told me that i cry for nothing and that we're moving in june and its not a big deal if i cant see my friends outside school
then they ask me why don't u have motivation
i'm tired. really i can't do this anymore
does someone understand me irl?
no more phone. no more tv. no more ipad. no more contacts with my friends outside school. at this point, i truly hate how my life became like this.
I understand completely and my parents ground me for trust too. Really I had a problem with my bf and my parents thought about it and thought i was lying and like we set the whole thing up so they decide to take my phone just bc i was with him. I completely understand with ur parents and mine. and my step mother decided to move me to a Christian school just bc im with my bf and we done things and she making my dad trying say yes. I competely understand what ur going through
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welp, i got an official adhd diagnosis today. i'm not at all surprised lol. i also had to do an autism screening and my results were "highly indicative" of autism, so i've gotta go to a specialty clinic for further testing. i'm not surprised by this either, tbh.
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i completely understand you. my mum would do the same thing with the 'betrayed trust'. i would like to ask what exactly is his definition of 'betrayed trust'? bc ur dad's the one not trusting you, so obviously everything would be 'betrayed trust'. if he can't be trusting enough to believe youcame home one hour late bc you didn't have time, he should rethink his entire relationship with you.
there are also many factors that affect how early/late you arrive at a destination. obviously if your bus is 20 minutes late and the journey takes 30 minutes you are going to be very late. if this happened and ur dad didn't trust you enough to believe this, he needs to, again, rethink.
also, why is it not a big deal that u can't see ur friends outside school? esp as a teen, friends make up almost more of your life than parents do. friends are the ones that influence/impact us, not our parents. wym its not a big deal? i heard of someone who bc they couldn't make friends by themselves became depressed and eventually a stalker. that all happened during middle/high school (teen era). in this case, ur parents are literally the ones at fault.
now i'm angry.
come on now.
i know i shouldnt have fought her, now my mom is mad. this put a really bad halt on our recovering relationship
but idc lol
I really don't care, that I don't care. and its a problem I guess, but I don't care that its a problem because I really don't care about anything right now?
i know i shouldnt have fought her, now my mom is mad. this put a really bad halt on our recovering relationship
but idc lol
I really don't care, that I don't care. and its a problem I guess, but I don't care that its a problem because I really don't care about anything right now?
ikrr, i even went out in by metro, to go faster bc i usually walk
im happy that ppl understand me :')
It honestly won’t take much for me to end my life
I honestly hate life rn
tw / eating disorder, body image
i've always had body dysmorphia, i guess. and I was always considered "big" I guess.
i don't think I look "big" but when people tell me I am I think its true for a short time.
but I guess right now, I'm thinking it still.
i've always had body dysmorphia, i guess. and I was always considered "big" I guess.
i don't think I look "big" but when people tell me I am I think its true for a short time.
but I guess right now, I'm thinking it still.
Why is everything have to be perfect for one person?
not a guy in my class who wants to grow his hair being summoned by the manager of our grade because he had a "bun" and its considered as an "innappropriate hairstyle"in my school by the student services office???? what the hell?
i was so sad abt this bc apparently he cried :cc
but it was so funny when he started to come to school like that bc he gave us eren jager vibes
i was so sad abt this bc apparently he cried :cc
but it was so funny when he started to come to school like that bc he gave us eren jager vibes
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i hate when schools do stuff like that, it would hurt literally no one to just let students wear what they feel expresses them best :/
there was actually a girl in my school who wore a slightly tight sweatshirt and was body shamed by the ppl in the office and they pretty much told her if she was thinner, they wouldn't have said anything abt tight clothes