**Non-Kpop Rant Space**

[yunaing]

Okay. It’s time for Miel’s first Karen story

Now I will say, I have actually dealt with a “can I speak to the manager” woman before. However, this one was not rude and I understood her circumstances, so even though I literally could not help her, I understand why she acted the way she did.

Not today though

For some backstory. I work in a general goods shop, and one service I can provide is top ups for bills. Because of the cost of living crisis, the government allows people to use a voucher to top their bills up. The one instruction I have is to ask for ID, as I have to make sure the address matches the person who is having the top up. I don’t know why. I don’t make the rules. I’m 18 and still technically “training”.

So, it starts with a woman probably in her 30s coming in with this voucher and the token, and telling me it’s for her mother. I tell her it’s fine, but I need her mother’s id to do the transaction, which she says she doesn’t have. I tell her sorry and that I can’t do it then. Up to this point, the woman was friendly. But then, she snatches the token back out my hand and goes “fucks sake” and storms out. I apologised again as she left but she didn’t acknowledge me or anything. I just brush it off and think nothing more of it.

Then. The mother comes in. Holding her bill and comes up to the till
“Why did you refuse to do this”
I tell her “I need ID to do that”
She tells me “no you don’t” oh I’m sorry do you want to come behind the counter and do my job for me then? “I’ve done it 3 times in here before” ok. I’ve never seen you before though, “I’ve even had the manager tell me I don’t need ID” shouldn’t be the case because I’ve been trained to take ID
“I don’t walk around with my birth certificate on me, I don’t have a driving licence because I don’t drive, so what do you expect me to do” I DONT FUCKING KNOW. Look maam all I do is scan people’s items and top up their bills when they bring me the right shit aka their ID. She tells me this twice I think.
And then. It’s the moment we’ve been waiting for
“Can I speak to your manager” EVERYBODY CHEERED.

Now, another thing to note is I wasn’t on shift with my manager tonight. I was on shift with this lazy man who tells me how to do stuff I already know and tells me not to do stuff I need to do. Very slow. Don’t know how he’s still in the job. But because I’m only 18 and training, he was in charge of me.

So I call him over. And she tells him
“This girl is refusing to serve me” yes just leave out the reason why and act like I’m just taking the piss
So I explain “I asked for id and she doesn’t have it”.
She once again goes off about how she doesn’t need ID, she’s never needed ID and that I’m wrong.
I respond “everyone has told me I need to ask for ID”.
My colleague just responds “who”
I just said everyone coz like

Anyway then he just tells me “it’s okay because I’ve seen her around” and at this point I’m now shaking because I’m weak and really don’t like confrontation. There’s a huge queue so I just say okay and do it. She continues to tell me that she doesn’t need id because the letter tells her just to take it into a local shop. At this point I just don’t care anymore I want her gone. I kept apologising because it’s not like I want to be difficult for customers?? I’m not doing it for fun? You think I want to be confronted by an angry woman at 7:30pm? She did actually say “it’s not your fault” though so like. 1 small win. And I know it wasn’t my fault, it was very clearly hers.

There was this one girl waiting in the queue since the daughter had first come in and cussed. When I served her I nearly just burst out crying because of how stressed the confrontation had made me. She looked at me in a way that made me feel like she was feeling sympathetic But maybe I was reaching because I was so stressed.

Shortly after this happens, one of my other colleagues had come in to buy something. And I asked him if I needed ID because I was feeling pretty gaslit at this point. And he old me yes I do need ID. SURPRISE SURPRISE! Girl who actually works at the shop knows the rules.

Anyways. I wonder if the reason my “manager” had told her she didn’t need ID was because she’s done this every time

 

[LostInTheDream]

Okay. It’s time for Miel’s first Karen story

Now I will say, I have actually dealt with a “can I speak to the manager” woman before. However, this one was not rude and I understood her circumstances, so even though I literally could not help her, I understand why she acted the way she did.

Not today though

For some backstory. I work in a general goods shop, and one service I can provide is top ups for bills. Because of the cost of living crisis, the government allows people to use a voucher to top their bills up. The one instruction I have is to ask for ID, as I have to make sure the address matches the person who is having the top up. I don’t know why. I don’t make the rules. I’m 18 and still technically “training”.

So, it starts with a woman probably in her 30s coming in with this voucher and the token, and telling me it’s for her mother. I tell her it’s fine, but I need her mother’s id to do the transaction, which she says she doesn’t have. I tell her sorry and that I can’t do it then. Up to this point, the woman was friendly. But then, she snatches the token back out my hand and goes “fucks sake” and storms out. I apologised again as she left but she didn’t acknowledge me or anything. I just brush it off and think nothing more of it.

Then. The mother comes in. Holding her bill and comes up to the till
“Why did you refuse to do this”
I tell her “I need ID to do that”
She tells me “no you don’t” oh I’m sorry do you want to come behind the counter and do my job for me then? “I’ve done it 3 times in here before” ok. I’ve never seen you before though, “I’ve even had the manager tell me I don’t need ID” shouldn’t be the case because I’ve been trained to take ID
“I don’t walk around with my birth certificate on me, I don’t have a driving licence because I don’t drive, so what do you expect me to do” I DONT FUCKING KNOW. Look maam all I do is scan people’s items and top up their bills when they bring me the right shit aka their ID. She tells me this twice I think.
And then. It’s the moment we’ve been waiting for
“Can I speak to your manager” EVERYBODY CHEERED.

Now, another thing to note is I wasn’t on shift with my manager tonight. I was on shift with this lazy man who tells me how to do stuff I already know and tells me not to do stuff I need to do. Very slow. Don’t know how he’s still in the job. But because I’m only 18 and training, he was in charge of me.

So I call him over. And she tells him
“This girl is refusing to serve me” yes just leave out the reason why and act like I’m just taking the piss
So I explain “I asked for id and she doesn’t have it”.
She once again goes off about how she doesn’t need ID, she’s never needed ID and that I’m wrong.
I respond “everyone has told me I need to ask for ID”.
My colleague just responds “who”
I just said everyone coz like

Anyway then he just tells me “it’s okay because I’ve seen her around” and at this point I’m now shaking because I’m weak and really don’t like confrontation. There’s a huge queue so I just say okay and do it. She continues to tell me that she doesn’t need id because the letter tells her just to take it into a local shop. At this point I just don’t care anymore I want her gone. I kept apologising because it’s not like I want to be difficult for customers?? I’m not doing it for fun? You think I want to be confronted by an angry woman at 7:30pm? She did actually say “it’s not your fault” though so like. 1 small win. And I know it wasn’t my fault, it was very clearly hers.

There was this one girl waiting in the queue since the daughter had first come in and cussed. When I served her I nearly just burst out crying because of how stressed the confrontation had made me. She looked at me in a way that made me feel like she was feeling sympathetic But maybe I was reaching because I was so stressed.

Shortly after this happens, one of my other colleagues had come in to buy something. And I asked him if I needed ID because I was feeling pretty gaslit at this point. And he old me yes I do need ID. SURPRISE SURPRISE! Girl who actually works at the shop knows the rules.

Anyways. I wonder if the reason my “manager” had told her she didn’t need ID was because she’s done this every time

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's completely unfair that you had to take the abuse for something the customer had done wrong. You were completely in the right and your colleague needs to lose his job.
And you're probably right. She most likely has done this so many times that your manager gave up one day and processed it.
I hope you don't have to deal with that shit again.

 

[yunaing]

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's completely unfair that you had to take the abuse for something the customer had done wrong. You were completely in the right and your colleague needs to lose his job.
And you're probably right. She most likely has done this so many times that your manager gave up one day and processed it.
I hope you don't have to deal with that shit again.

I just find it ridiculous how some customers act like when you do something like that, you’re just having a laugh or something? Like. What did she think I was going to say
“I don’t need ID”
“Yes you do”
“No I don’t. I’ve done this before”
“Ahh! You got me! I just didn’t feel like serving you. But you solved the mystery!”

 

[LostInTheDream]

I just find it ridiculous how some customers act like when you do something like that, you’re just having a laugh or something? Like. What did she think I was going to say
“I don’t need ID”
“Yes you do”
“No I don’t. I’ve done this before”
“Ahh! You got me! I just didn’t feel like serving you. But you solved the mystery!”

They view us like we're trying to cause them an issue on purpose. No....that's just how it is.
And retail employees are all robots with no emotions so it doesn't hurt us when you do/say something mean.

 

[GangMuxHanNa]

I am getting so sick of people not knowing the difference between a fear and a phobia.
Oh my god you see a spider in your room and you scream and run out, that my friend is a fear.
A phobia is you seeing a spider in your room, having a panic attack, not being able to enter your room for a period of time, checking every crevice of your room before ever entering it again, and not being able to properly function if you think of a spider being in your room.
I understand it's scary if something like the first instance occurs, but it's not a phobia. By calling it a phobia you are making people with actual phobias feel like they're struggles aren't important. And having a phobia does not make you 'quirky'. A phobia is a diagnosed anxiety disorder that people like myself struggle with every second of every day. If you think you have a legit phobia then see a psychologist, therapist, or a doctor. I won't go into further detail in order not to trigger anyone. But I'm sure if you look through the insecurities and fears thread you'll be able to find what I wish to say.
I'm sorry if this sounds like I am discrediting the struggles of people who fear things. That's not my intention, I am sorry you struggle with such fears. But I don't think it's right for people like me to have our struggles being viewed as less than what they are due to terms being misused.

my dad doesn't believe i have arachnaphobia but i swear i do
like i see a spider, i will run, jump behind something and not come out until the spider is killed, thrown away, burned and yeeted to the next dimension. and then i have to make sure that the spider is dead myself and clear the entire space i found the spider at
my dad thinks im just overreacting but spiders are scary as heck
i once saw one in my room and it was huge like humongous and it started coming towards me and i started crying
my dad came down and saw the spider and was like "just kill it"
it's not that easy
i HAAAAAATE the sound spiders make when you step on them
it disgusts me
and like this spider was hairy. i do not want spider germs on my shoes. no thank you.
hairy spiders are the worst, they're uglier than normal spiders and i swear they can see inside my soul and tell that im scared of them, then they come over and crawl on me
once a giant spider crawled on me and i learned later it was poisonous and i barricaded myself in my room for a week after throwing up everywhere :<

 

[chaechae.core]

my dad doesn't believe i have arachnaphobia but i swear i do
like i see a spider, i will run, jump behind something and not come out until the spider is killed, thrown away, burned and yeeted to the next dimension. and then i have to make sure that the spider is dead myself and clear the entire space i found the spider at
my dad thinks im just overreacting but spiders are scary as heck
i once saw one in my room and it was huge like humongous and it started coming towards me and i started crying
my dad came down and saw the spider and was like "just kill it"
it's not that easy
i HAAAAAATE the sound spiders make when you step on them
it disgusts me
and like this spider was hairy. i do not want spider germs on my shoes. no thank you.
hairy spiders are the worst, they're uglier than normal spiders and i swear they can see inside my soul and tell that im scared of them, then they come over and crawl on me
once a giant spider crawled on me and i learned later it was poisonous and i barricaded myself in my room for a week after throwing up everywhere :<

Me tooooo
Today my mom called my down into our basement
(our basement is UNfinished and there is a lot of spiders in there, barely anyone comes down there)
I started crying and whining that I didn't want to go in there as soon as I took the first step.
My dad eventually made me go down and put away the chairs, I managed to put away one.
I was whining to my mom that Im scared of spiders and I'd rather do aNYTHING else.
but she just brushed it off and said there are no spiders even though I saw a dead one RIGHT THERE.

 

[GangMuxHanNa]

i would've dropped dead right then and there

Me tooooo
Today my mom called my down into our basement
(our basement is UNfinished and there is a lot of spiders in there, barely anyone comes down there)
I started crying and whining that I didn't want to go in there as soon as I took the first step.
My dad eventually made me go down and put away the chairs, I managed to put away one.
I was whining to my mom that Im scared of spiders and I'd rather do aNYTHING else.
but she just brushed it off and said there are no spiders even though I saw a dead one RIGHT THERE.

 

[chaechae.core]

i would've dropped dead right then and there

frrr

 

[LostInTheDream]

I am getting so sick of people not knowing the difference between a fear and a phobia.
Oh my god you see a spider in your room and you scream and run out, that my friend is a fear.
A phobia is you seeing a spider in your room, having a panic attack, not being able to enter your room for a period of time, checking every crevice of your room before ever entering it again, and not being able to properly function if you think of a spider being in your room.
I understand it's scary if something like the first instance occurs, but it's not a phobia. By calling it a phobia you are making people with actual phobias feel like they're struggles aren't important. And having a phobia does not make you 'quirky'. A phobia is a diagnosed anxiety disorder that people like myself struggle with every second of every day. If you think you have a legit phobia then see a psychologist, therapist, or a doctor. I won't go into further detail in order not to trigger anyone. But I'm sure if you look through the insecurities and fears thread you'll be able to find what I wish to say.
I'm sorry if this sounds like I am discrediting the struggles of people who fear things. That's not my intention, I am sorry you struggle with such fears. But I don't think it's right for people like me to have our struggles being viewed as less than what they are due to terms being misused.

Some people still didn't get the message. Makes me feel sad

 

[ur.local.dino]

i personally have a phobia (i think it’s considered that?) of worms. it may sound stupid but every time i see even just a dead one i get super freaked out and don’t want to go outside unless i absolutely HAVE to. when i’m riding the bus home from school and it’s raining, i start to freak out knowing that at some point i will have to get off and walk right next to them. seeing them move is even worse, and even if it’s just raining outside, no worms that i can see, i’ll start to have a slight panic attack and sprint home as fast as i can. it’s not like i can kill them either, im afraid of being even in the same square of the sidewalk w them. one time my little bro told my mom that i liked worms knowing that i was absolutely terrified of them, so she sent a pic of it and i couldn’t even look at it for a second before i started crying and my breathing sped up. it’s hard to describe, but i just can’t handle the thought of anything to do w worms

 

[GangMuxHanNa]

i personally have a phobia (i think it’s considered that?) of worms. it may sound stupid but every time i see even just a dead one i get super freaked out and don’t want to go outside unless i absolutely HAVE to. when i’m riding the bus home from school and it’s raining, i start to freak out knowing that at some point i will have to get off and walk right next to them. seeing them move is even worse, and even if it’s just raining outside, no worms that i can see, i’ll start to have a slight panic attack and sprint home as fast as i can. it’s not like i can kill them either, im afraid of being even in the same square of the sidewalk w them. one time my little bro told my mom that i liked worms knowing that i was absolutely terrified of them, so she sent a pic of it and i couldn’t even look at it for a second before i started crying and my breathing sped up. it’s hard to describe, but i just can’t handle the thought of anything to do w worms

*whenever i go outside knowing that our porch is covered with spiderwebs*

 

[Rengya_Utoma]

I don't have a phobia of them, as if I did, I wouldn't be able to function at all because these little fuckers be out a lot sometimes, but I absolutely hate & am scared of flies. I don't know how to describe it, every time I see one or hear one, I spontaneously get the feeling of wanting to curl up into a ball & cry or beat the shit out of it & kill it. Flies are just.... hell no!!!! I'm just intensely terrified & furious at flies though, I don't have Pteronarcophobia. I kinda like spiders, as they eat flies. Gotta respect a spider's service, ya know. Spiders are still creepy as hell though. Flies are a million times worse though. It's weird, because I'm not scared of any other insect, but I'm scared of a regular old fly, one of the most common insects! Idk.

 

[LostInTheDream]

It's gone now
But to summarize: Someone in my community lied on national TV about being present at a crime that has greatly affected me and my family. She's never stepped foot in that location. I'm still seething

 

[Harleyquinfan]

Ppl at my school need to learn the difference between different lgbtq+ things. Like gay and lesbian are similar, but not the same things.
And no, bisexual does not mean that I do threesomes.
And being poly doesn't mean I'm a player.
Like, stereotype much?

thats what im saying bruh

 

[marchclara]

TO START: SORRY FOR THE LONG TEXT AND SECOND: I'm really surprised to see a thread like this now. There are some things that happened today that I really wanted to share with someone and finding this out can really help me tell how I feel after my day at school. I really hope that im not saying in the "wrong thread" but it's just a little story share with you all. (I apologize if I misspell or smth like that)
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I have a pretty strong connection with my literature teacher (I will refer to him as 'Jack', but don't worry, this isn't his real name). He was my literature and text production one year ago and he's one of the persons that i share my personal interest and creations (poems and texts that i wrote, my favorite musics and artists and some plans for future). I also have a kinda connection with my math teacher, but i actually trust a little bit more on Jack than this math teacher. This year he's isn't my text production teacher anymore and will only be our literature teacher. It's really disappoints me because we have 1 class per week and i don't have too much connection with my classmates and there's a lot of things that i really wanted to share to him. Well, yes, i can contact him, but i don't wanna brother him and call him out of nowhere.

But now going to the real question of this text, today we talked a little bit at least. I don't remember exactly what time we talked about it, but I asked him if it was good for me to go back to writing poems. He said he would be very supportive and appreciative of this decision and reminded me of an event that took place last year. In the middle of 2022, I gave him a text written by me about a girl in my class. It wasn't anything bad, but just a training text to describe events and what I see. He told me that he found the text in the middle of his book and in his words: "I read that text and was enchanted by how good it was and I was desperate to know who wrote that. I even asked some people to find out who did it until I found out it was you".

Honestly, that's the reason for all this big text, I still don't know how to react to all these words that I've never heard at any time in my life. I don't know how to explain in words the feelings that i feel when i heard that and i still don't know if i really gonna back writing poems, but somehow after he said that, i'm kinda motivated to write poems and i even got a inspiration in the middle on the class. So i'm still very confused about it, i really don't know if i learn again how to write texts and poems or just... i don't know. I still can figure out what i'm feeling, and i really wanted to do something cool and good to make him proud of me and happy for supporting/trusting me. In the end of the class, we just chatted about an artist brazilian artist that i'm been listening a lot and very interested to learn more about.

And that's it, i'm very sorry for the long text, but i really wanted to share with someone. Like i said, maybe i can learn again how to make text's and poems, but i'm not really sure about that ik? I really hate to be a person who doesn't know what feeling in the moment, but maybe i just need a time to reflect about that... i really don't know what to do, maybe i just need a little help. why am i like this help...

 

[yunaing]

I'm so stressed. I have exams for French all of next week, but I also completely forgot about my English NEA that's due next Wednesday, which I still have so much to complete, and I have addition Eng homework on top of that. But I still need to do revision for French. I know I can get it done but I didn't realise how much work I have to do and I feel so overwhelmed. I had such a good day with my friends yesterday and I'm seeing more friends tomorrow, and I saw my nan after work on Tuesday. These are all such lovely things but now I can't help but wish I had more time to do this work

 

[yunaing]

I’m really anxious and confused..

Basically, my favourite subject is English Language. My intention is to study linguistics at university. I’ve received offers from every University I applied to for linguistics, and I’m predicted an A* for the subject. I’ve been getting As and A*s since this time last year. My school does these things called progress reviews and for them they give a mark to say what grade you’re currently walking towards.
I got an A for psychology, which is good. I got a C for french, which was expected… but I got a B in Eng Lang…

Now the thing is. For this specific progress review, only people they’re worried about are suppose to be called in, so basically anyone who is suddenly doing worse than expected OF THEM. Of them is important. So, if my grade has dropped by 2 you’d THINK they would’ve requested to see me?? But the thing is they ALSO put me as “exceeding expectations” SO RIFENSKWNSORNKDW???

 

[yunaing]

Whoops was accidentally too honest with my dad last night…

I know I’ll probably seem like an arsehole for saying this but just to give some context when I was a lot younger, aka not mentally stable, my dad was suffering from quite severe depression. And a consequence of this is he used to talk to me about very heavy subjects about my family and stuff that would just make me cry. Um so as a consequence of this I hate talking to him about feelings. Because I think he still suffers from depression he takes it VERY seriously, maybe too seriously. More seriously than it needs to be taken. And it makes me uncomfortable to talk about it.

Um so anyways in the car yesterday I got mad at him for accusing my mum of caring too much about my university decisions when all she’s doing is trying to help me. That caused me to complain that both of them clearly have issues which will never go away because of me. That “because of me” line completely set him off. Had to explain I only blame myself for their problems sometimes when I’m genuinely just feeling shit about myself in general. And for the most part I don’t even think about the fact I have split parents because it’s just normal to me. But. He’s still way too caught up on the fact I confessed sometimes I blame myself for the fact my parents hate each other even though they deny it (they clearly have issues). Now he’s sending me a list of things he’s loved about being my dad to prove I’m not a burden. And I don’t fucking know how to respond I don’t want to talk about it because it’s not that big of a deal to me, but also because I don’t like discussing my feelings with either of my parents (my mum is too logical while my dad is too empathetic, ironic because linguists in the past claimed men seek to solve issues whereas women seek to support emotions). But also how are you suppose to respond to a list of things that make your dad happy? Like thanks? It’s just too overwhelming okay

 

[Rengya_Utoma]

FYI kids, just cause you go to a collge prep, private, or prestigious school, that doesn't mean at all that nothing goes down there. At my school, the bathrooms smell like zaza, no pachulia iykwim, everybody's having s3x, one of my best friends since 6th grade does acid & ketamine and shit, there's too much gossip, etc. Keep in mind that everyone's iq at this school is at least in the one hundred & tens, and everyone STILL acts like jackasses.

TLDR; no matter what, crazy shit will happen wherever you go, no exception. Albeit, they may definitely happen less often, but they still very well occur.

 

[yunaing]

This is a really small rant and it doesn't even effect me but it really bothers me. I hate when people say white = caucasian because it DOESN'T. Caucasian refers to a very small part of Europe. According to Google, Caucasians are mainly from: Armenia, Azerbaijan, Georgia. I'm not caucasian, probably little to no one here is caucasian. And likely all the Americans who call themselves caucasian are not caucasian. Idky it bothers me so much. It's just not correct to call yourself caucasian. It refers to a specific type of European T--T