**Non-Kpop Rant Space**

[chaechae.core]

omg i relate so much to this
and i hope things better for u too and im not saying this just cause my friend but based on your AMAZINGG personality i think ur stunning and pretty ppl are amazing so u prob amazing too
also this is smth my mom always tell me looks aren't everything and its just best to girlboss now and you'll have the most amazing glow up in the future (i added the girlboss part lol)

ugh girl you're too sweet <3
and im sure you're absolutely stunning too, both inside and outside.
it's very true, glow-ups are very real.

 

[chaerifyyy]

ugh girl you're too sweet <3
and im sure you're absolutely stunning too, both inside and outside.
it's very true, glow-ups are very real.

<33 plus us desi girls always have the best glow ups

 

[chaechae.core]

<33 plus us desi girls always have the best glow ups

fr <3

 

[yunaing]

The way my sister treats my dad and step mum is infuriating to me. Be honestly. It’s my step mum and dad’s fault.

To explain the family dynamic.
I’m 18F. My mum is my mum but she’s irrelevant to the story.
My dad left my mum before I was born to start dating step mum. They had my sister, 15F. So my sister is my half sister. But for the sake of convenience she’s just sister to me.
When I was little, I used to go to my D and SM’s house every weekend to stay the night
When I got a bit older this became every week just for the day
And then now the arrangement is every other weekend.
So just to clarify, I don’t live with them so this is only my perspective from what I see.

My sister has been raised quite spoilt. It’s ironic because my mum only had one child so you’d think I’d be the one being spoilt. But nope. They let my sister have everything her way, even at my expense. Some examples:
I’ve always had Christmas Eve with my mum, because my dad refused to take my “Santa Presents” from my mum because it wouldn’t be fair on my sister, meaning he always wanted us to have the exact same things. But like… that’s just not how santa works
When I was little and loved Lego friends, I always wanted this specific set called Olivia’s Treehouse. But they discontinued it, so instead I wanted Olivia’s House. But my sister also wanted Olivia’s House. And it became a massive fight. And like. As a parent this is when I would’ve told my sister, your sister wanted this set first and had her heart set on it, so you should choose a different set instead since you only started wanting it today. Or Yknow just buy both sets because it was with our money. BUT because my D and SM would allow my sister to play with my toys when I wasn’t there, that wasn’t an option, and because fuck me ig the other wasn’t an option either. So in the end I just gave up and got a cruise ship. The cruise ship was pretty neat but I was really upset about it.
When my dad got a computer we would take turns playing it….. yeah take turns. My sister would play for hours while I watched. When it was my go she’d constantly beg me for it to be her go. D and SM did nothing about this.
When I also started getting technology at around 7-9, the rule was if I was going to bring it to their house, I had to share it. My mum didn’t want my sister playing with the expensive devices she’d bought for me so I just wasn’t allowed them.

So. As you can imagine, these sorts of rules and behaviours haven’t done much for my sister now she’s older. Though I will say, around the time I was transitioning from visiting every weekend to only every other weekend, my D and SM went through a really rough patch. They argued every weekend and the tension was always really thick. At this point in time my sister had a fairly normal attitude but now looking back on the way my D and SM would speak to each other it’s very similar.

My sister acts so entitled. Everything is viewed from a lense of is it fair to her. Now I only see her for about 4 hours every other weekend so I know this isn’t a full representation of who she is, but these are some examples:
She wants pizza for dinner every time I see her. Sometimes I want Chinese. If I do want Chinese it often becomes a fight. The only time she didn’t fight back was my birthday so at least that’s cool. But yeah even if me, D and SM all want Chinese, it’s unfair because we’re ganging up on her making her look bad and forcing her to have something she doesn’t want.
We have to watch exactly what she wants to watch. I’ll happy watch whatever they want to even though my taste is quite different. At long as there’s not too much gore or psychological horror I’m okay with it.

But here’s where the REAL rant comes in. Because yes. This was all building up to this moment. You see, my step mum asked my little queer self what drag race was like, and she watched it out of curiosity. Long story short, she got obsessed with it, and so did my dad. So every time I go see them we watch it together. Every time I’ve missed a weekend because of other commitments, my dad would tell me that SM was disappointed and excited for me to come round next because she’d get to watch another episode of drag race. It’s so wholesome T—T. HOWEVER. Have you guessed it? Yep. Sister doesn’t like drag race. So usually we’d put on an episode immediately after I got there before my sister would come downstairs for dinner. This arrangement worked fine for the majority of the series. It was only right at the end where things got loose.
I went to theirs for New Years Eve, and we had 2 episodes left. So my D and SM really wanted to finish it that night. We watched 1 episode before she came downstairs, all good, watched something else as we ate dinner. And then my SM told my sister their plan of watching another episode. “But it’s not fair on me I don’t want to”. Fine. So we watched a film instead. She gave us permission to watch the finale at about 11:30pm, which I pointed out was just too late so we’d have to watch it next time.
Yesterday was next time. When I got there my sister was already downstairs. So I had no idea whether she’d let us watch it with her present or not. Answer was no.
So we were going to watch the sequel to the film we watched on NYE, but then I saw it was about 2 and a half hours. At this point, with an episode of Drag Race on top, I probably wouldn’t’ve gotten home until like 10:30-11pm. And Yknow my step mum’s solution… TO WATCH DRAG RACE ANOTHER WEEKEND.
And I just snapped. I never snap but I snapped. I told them no I didn’t want to wait because we’d already waited after NYE. AND that they’d both texted me saying they were excited to watch it and it made me sad thinking they’d have to wait. My sister was all like I didn’t say you couldn’t I just said not now moany. So we put something else on that she wanted to watch, which was shorter, while we ate dinner. And then we watched the finale. D and SM were very proud of themselves coz they guessed the winner correctly.

And just the cherry on top. After it was finished my SM whispered that she wanted to watch season 2 now. But my sister chimed in saying “you’re going to watch another series? I hope not.” How fucking selfish can you be towards your own mum…

 

[Starman]

Okay this like a mini rant to the people that online date no hate intended but
can yall not...maybe thru pm im tired of seeing ppl saying babe or having a mental breakdown a 12 pm or 1 or crying about how somebody regeted them like bro i understand so sad but im worried that some of yall mighr be too young or to date i dont want some 16 year old dating some 12 13 year old in here lets keep in mind some kids might be here and we show show an example of what not to do IN THIS FOURM. like its going to be onlime where everyone can see so...please for the love of god stop online dating move on its hard but make a better you

 

[chaechae.core]

Okay this like a mini rant to the people that online date no hate intended but
can yall not...maybe thru pm im tired of seeing ppl saying babe or having a mental breakdown a 12 pm or 1 or crying about how somebody regeted them like bro i understand so sad but im worried that some of yall mighr be too young or to date i dont want some 16 year old dating some 12 13 year old in here lets keep in mind some kids might be here and we show show an example of what not to do IN THIS FOURM. like its going to be onlime where everyone can see so...please for the love of god stop online dating move on its hard but make a better you

ofc, I agree.
i hope no one thinks im actually dating @avi ☆
it's just a joke

 

[avi ☆]

yeah bro it all fun and games

ofc, I agree.
i hope no one thinks im actually dating @avi ☆
it's just a joke

 

[Starman]

im so out off touch on the fourm so you cool on that

ofc, I agree.
i hope no one thinks im actually dating @avi ☆
it's just a joke

 

[𝓐𝓵𝓮𝓬_𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮!]

So i guess this is how i feel about my relationship

So, My two lovers are dating each other and I am jealous, but ik they love me too....but I guess i just feel like they really don't and it's annoying bc they see eachother irl and I just feel left out and shit....but they keep saying that they love me and stuff but I kinda don't believe them..idk it's hard to be an online poly relationship...and I get that it's poly but tbh I feel left out...And I feel like shit...I keep saying I'm okay but i am not...and it's hard to explain my feelings to them bc they honestly don't get it but they say they do....I hate it

 

[yunaing]

I cant stop thinking about something my dad said to me that really made me mad. I’m still mad about it.

So like. I’m the daughter of split parents. Not divorce, they never got married. They split before I was born so I’ve never known a life where my mum and my dad were together. When I was younger they got along well enough but when I was around 11 that all changed, they hate each other and it’s never gone back nor will it ever most likely.

So backstory done. Now, like I said, they hate each other. And one thing that’s been a thing since before they started to HATE each other is my dad especially has always been very snobbish towards my mum’s parenting of me. And like, sure my mum’s parenting definitely had flaws, but overall I think she raised me to be independent and polite… just also without any self confidence. Meanwhile my sister is rude and miserable so.

So whenever I have an opinion on anything or decide to do anything, my dad will always ask me in this really condescending way “is that what you think or is that what your mum thinks”. I don’t think I even need to explain why this pisses me off.

And you’d think, now that I’m fucking 18 years old he’d have some faith in me being able to make my own decisions but no ofc fucking not.

Now, I’m a slob. One of my biggest flaws is my laziness and it really shows in my bedroom. I often leave clothes and school work all over my floor because I can’t be bothered to put them where they belong. This is a habit I’m trying to break though. On top of this, my bedroom stinks.
So, it was my plan to tidy my room properly on Sunday, but then on Saturday my mum complained about my room so I did it on Saturday instead. Really improved my mood seeing my room spotless but you can guarantee I’ve already ruined that lol

Anyway. So I saw my dad Saturday night and he asked me what I’d been doing. I told him I’d been sorting my room out. And this is what he said that hurt me, which I’m sure you might be able to see coming maybe:
“Because you wanted to, or because your mum told you to?”. In his usual condescending tone of course.

I’m having a really hard time expressing why this upset me, so I’m hoping it could be pretty obvious. Like. I’m going to be moving out in 7 months or something. IM 18 YEARS OLD. What does this fucking mean. Does he not see me as someone who can just take the initiative and tidy my room because I wanted to? I was so fucking tired of living in that mess I just wanted to take care of myself why does everything have to be about my mum. It just so happened my mum told me too even though it was my intention anyway. I’m just so fucking angry. Because he’s always just trying to have a competition with my mum. He can’t see how it makes me look incompetent for him to constantly assume my mum has to tell me to do things and think a certain way. He wants to make my mum look like a bad parent as if he isn't paying minimum maintenance for my upbringing and is only still paying it because he has to by law

 

[LostInTheDream]

I cant stop thinking about something my dad said to me that really made me mad. I’m still mad about it.

So like. I’m the daughter of split parents. Not divorce, they never got married. They split before I was born so I’ve never known a life where my mum and my dad were together. When I was younger they got along well enough but when I was around 11 that all changed, they hate each other and it’s never gone back nor will it ever most likely.

So backstory done. Now, like I said, they hate each other. And one thing that’s been a thing since before they started to HATE each other is my dad especially has always been very snobbish towards my mum’s parenting of me. And like, sure my mum’s parenting definitely had flaws, but overall I think she raised me to be independent and polite… just also without any self confidence. Meanwhile my sister is rude and miserable so.

So whenever I have an opinion on anything or decide to do anything, my dad will always ask me in this really condescending way “is that what you think or is that what your mum thinks”. I don’t think I even need to explain why this pisses me off.

And you’d think, now that I’m fucking 18 years old he’d have some faith in me being able to make my own decisions but no ofc fucking not.

Now, I’m a slob. One of my biggest flaws is my laziness and it really shows in my bedroom. I often leave clothes and school work all over my floor because I can’t be bothered to put them where they belong. This is a habit I’m trying to break though. On top of this, my bedroom stinks.
So, it was my plan to tidy my room properly on Sunday, but then on Saturday my mum complained about my room so I did it on Saturday instead. Really improved my mood seeing my room spotless but you can guarantee I’ve already ruined that lol

Anyway. So I saw my dad Saturday night and he asked me what I’d been doing. I told him I’d been sorting my room out. And this is what he said that hurt me, which I’m sure you might be able to see coming maybe:
“Because you wanted to, or because your mum told you to?”. In his usual condescending tone of course.

I’m having a really hard time expressing why this upset me, so I’m hoping it could be pretty obvious. Like. I’m going to be moving out in 7 months or something. IM 18 YEARS OLD. What does this fucking mean. Does he not see me as someone who can just take the initiative and tidy my room because I wanted to? I was so fucking tired of living in that mess I just wanted to take care of myself why does everything have to be about my mum. It just so happened my mum told me too even though it was my intention anyway. I’m just so fucking angry. Because he’s always just trying to have a competition with my mum. He can’t see how it makes me look incompetent for him to constantly assume my mum has to tell me to do things and think a certain way. He wants to make my mum look like a bad parent as if he isn't paying minimum maintenance for my upbringing and is only still paying it because he has to by law

Your dad needs to set aside his dislike for your mum and the competitive atmosphere he is creating is toxic. He's trying to compensate for his lack of parenting in your life by making it seem like your mum is this horrendous person who is trying to control your life. You have a right to be upset, that's a really crappy thing to say to someone. He's essentially dehumanizing you and reducing you to being your mum's daughter. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I wanna say be petty and give him a taste of his own medicine by asking the same thing to your sister. But pettiness never got anyone anywhere. But I hope you're able to stand up to him and tell him that your a real person and not just an extension of your mum.

 

[yunaing]

Your dad needs to set aside his dislike for your mum and the competitive atmosphere he is creating is toxic. He's trying to compensate for his lack of parenting in your life by making it seem like your mum is this horrendous person who is trying to control your life. You have a right to be upset, that's a really crappy thing to say to someone. He's essentially dehumanizing you and reducing you to being your mum's daughter. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I wanna say be petty and give him a taste of his own medicine by asking the same thing to your sister. But pettiness never got anyone anywhere. But I hope you're able to stand up to him and tell him that your a real person and not just an extension of your mum.

Like I said, my mum has done things which have had a bad effect on me, such as my relationship with food or my self confidence (although it’s not like my dad helped me with food much either). But I still love my mum a lot because I have a lot of respect for her. She’s raised me since I was born, she’s gone to all my school events, she’s been there for all my firsts, and despite the fact that she can’t forgive my dad for leaving her, she still let me have a relationship with my dad because she never had a real one with hers. Imo my dad should just be grateful she didn’t fight for full legal custody of me and not allow him to see me. But she didn’t because she isn’t that petty. So yes, even though I know it’s pretty obvious he says these things because he wants to find any reason to tell himself he’s a better parent and my mum is evil and miserable and going to mess me up, it still irritates me that even now I’m older he can’t allow me to have opinions without it being possibly my mum’s. Like, “did you tidy your room because you actually wanted to” sounds like something you say to a 7 year old?? Not an 18 year old??

 

[LostInTheDream]

Like I said, my mum has done things which have had a bad effect on me, such as my relationship with food or my self confidence (although it’s not like my dad helped me with food much either). But I still love my mum a lot because I have a lot of respect for her. She’s raised me since I was born, she’s gone to all my school events, she’s been there for all my firsts, and despite the fact that she can’t forgive my dad for leaving her, she still let me have a relationship with my dad because she never had a real one with hers. Imo my dad should just be grateful she didn’t fight for full legal custody of me and not allow him to see me. But she didn’t because she isn’t that petty. So yes, even though I know it’s pretty obvious he says these things because he wants to find any reason to tell himself he’s a better parent and my mum is evil and miserable and going to mess me up, it still irritates me that even now I’m older he can’t allow me to have opinions without it being possibly my mum’s. Like, “did you tidy your room because you actually wanted to” sounds like something you say to a 7 year old?? Not an 18 year old??

I hope you're able to get away from there soon and go to a place where you'll be treated like your age.

 

[yunaing]

I hope you're able to get away from there soon and go to a place where you'll be treated like your age.

One last mini rant before I take a deep breath and let it go
It’s the way if I was a parent, I’d be more concerned if my 18 year old who was about to move out from home NEEDED her parent to tell her she was living in a mess and needed to tidy up, rather than the other way around Like, the logic isn’t logic-ing dad

 

[LostInTheDream]

I wish to provide a delayed rant about a Karen I encountered while at work this Sunday.
This one is kinda amusing so I'm not that mad but still kinda pissed.

So I worked a 10am-2pm shift on Sunday. This means I was the opening cashier as the store opens at 10am. Within an hour of us opening there was a call to customer service. I am in charge of picking those up and so I did and gave my generic "Thank you for calling (insert company) how may I help you". The customer on the phone is wanting to know if we have packs of 12 or so Bounty paper towels in stock. I asked my manager who is on the floor and she said yes we have them. So I tell the customer yes we have these. She gets super excited because she was unable to find them at any other location near her. She asks us to set aside 4 of them. I tell her okay and hang up. With this she is already causing an inconvenience cause these packs of paper towels are huge. 4 of them stacked on top of each other is roughly as tall as me (165 cm or 5'5). And I would have to keep these behind the register with me until she got there. That area already has limited room so it was quite cramped.
Now there's a bit of a backstory to these papertowels. Last week they were on sale for $14.99 but now that last week ended and it is now Sunday they went back to their usual price of $20.99.
So a couple of hours later she comes in the store for her paper towels. Not only does she want the four we set aside, but she wants four more. This results in her standing at the register for a solid 5 minutes while a coworker grabs these huge packages and brings them to the register. I ring all of them up and tell her the total. It was more or less $200 but she was like no no no that's wrong they're supposed to be $14.99. Luckily my manager was already with me at the register as she had helped to bring the additional 4 packages of paper towels over. My manager tells her that they were that price last week. Karen starts freaking out and shows us a screenshot of the sale on her phone that very specifically stated that the sale expired that week. She then can't get it through her brain that last Tuesday (when she took the screenshot) is last Tuesday as in last week. Idk where she was going there, like do you think you can time travel?
So then she starts yelling that the person on the phone (me) told them that they were $14.99. Both my manager and I knew this was crap cause I never said that and my manager heard the entire conversation. She starts yelling more and provides this gem, "I'm not trying to be a jerk here I'm just following what I was told on the phone". Dear Karen yes you are being a jerk. So I'm starting to get annoyed that she's trying to manipulate us into changing the price of all 8 packages by lying about what I said over the phone. My manager at this point was as irritated as me and eventually said that she could mark down the prices for the original 4 she wanted. Now it took a lot of effort to do this because we couldn't just change the price due to it previously being a sale item. So she had to price match it to the store, which is something we're really not supposed to do. But this Karen was shrieking so much that my manager did it to get her out of the store. As soon as she left we started going off on her and laughing at her stupidity. My manager actually had to message all the other managers at the other stores in case she tried to pull the same crap with them.
In conclusion: don't be a Karen

 

[chaechae.core]

people who don't respect other people's cultures make me wanna bash my head into a wall

 

[yunaing]

Excuse my language but I fucking hate the way male customers address me at work. I don’t care if they don’t realise it or not, or if it’s not their intention, but they’re being sexist. I’m not your darling, I’m not your hunny, I’m not your love and I’m DEFINITELY not your babe. I don’t know you. I’m 18 and I find gross old men calling me these names creepy. But even if I wasn’t 18, and even if they’re a younger lad, I don’t want to be addressed by these terms. They’re deserved for any future partners I have. Not some weirdo buying cigarettes off me.

 

[LostInTheDream]

I am getting so sick of people not knowing the difference between a fear and a phobia.
Oh my god you see a spider in your room and you scream and run out, that my friend is a fear.
A phobia is you seeing a spider in your room, having a panic attack, not being able to enter your room for a period of time, checking every crevice of your room before ever entering it again, and not being able to properly function if you think of a spider being in your room.
I understand it's scary if something like the first instance occurs, but it's not a phobia. By calling it a phobia you are making people with actual phobias feel like they're struggles aren't important. And having a phobia does not make you 'quirky'. A phobia is a diagnosed anxiety disorder that people like myself struggle with every second of every day. If you think you have a legit phobia then see a psychologist, therapist, or a doctor. I won't go into further detail in order not to trigger anyone. But I'm sure if you look through the insecurities and fears thread you'll be able to find what I wish to say.
I'm sorry if this sounds like I am discrediting the struggles of people who fear things. That's not my intention, I am sorry you struggle with such fears. But I don't think it's right for people like me to have our struggles being viewed as less than what they are due to terms being misused.

 

[Loves4Lisa]

Ppl at my school need to learn the difference between different lgbtq+ things. Like gay and lesbian are similar, but not the same things.
And no, bisexual does not mean that I do threesomes.
And being poly doesn't mean I'm a player.
Like, stereotype much?

 

[yunaing]

I am getting so sick of people not knowing the difference between a fear and a phobia.
Oh my god you see a spider in your room and you scream and run out, that my friend is a fear.
A phobia is you seeing a spider in your room, having a panic attack, not being able to enter your room for a period of time, checking every crevice of your room before ever entering it again, and not being able to properly function if you think of a spider being in your room.
I understand it's scary if something like the first instance occurs, but it's not a phobia. By calling it a phobia you are making people with actual phobias feel like they're struggles aren't important. And having a phobia does not make you 'quirky'. A phobia is a diagnosed anxiety disorder that people like myself struggle with every second of every day. If you think you have a legit phobia then see a psychologist, therapist, or a doctor. I won't go into further detail in order not to trigger anyone. But I'm sure if you look through the insecurities and fears thread you'll be able to find what I wish to say.
I'm sorry if this sounds like I am discrediting the struggles of people who fear things. That's not my intention, I am sorry you struggle with such fears. But I don't think it's right for people like me to have our struggles being viewed as less than what they are due to terms being misused.

Yeah we just learnt about phobias in psychology and the difference is very clear. I have a really strong fear of dogs. I get nervous around them, I don’t like interacting with them, I get a bit stressed if they jump at me or bark at me. But it’s NOT a phobia. If it was a phobia I wouldn’t be able to go anywhere where a dog might be. I wouldn’t visit my friends who have dogs. If a dog jumped on me I’d probably have a panic attack or faint.
But, I do think I have a phobia, or used to at least, of performing on stage and public speaking. I never got it diagnosed coz it wasn’t something I encountered often. But when I was younger, if you made me sing a solo on a stage or do a presentation, id feel like I can’t breathe, id start to cry, even the idea had the possibility of making me cry, my stomach would hurt. All I’d be able to think about is the performance/presentation, all of which are signs of a phobia. However, these symptoms aren’t as strong anymore so I think that’s a good sign

But yeah. The difference is really important, because phobias can be life ruining. I was lucky to get a minor phobia over something I could easily avoid or only encountered every so often. But there are some phobia stories which are just horrible