The way my sister treats my dad and step mum is infuriating to me. Be honestly. It’s my step mum and dad’s fault.
To explain the family dynamic.
I’m 18F. My mum is my mum but she’s irrelevant to the story.
My dad left my mum before I was born to start dating step mum. They had my sister, 15F. So my sister is my half sister. But for the sake of convenience she’s just sister to me.
When I was little, I used to go to my D and SM’s house every weekend to stay the night
When I got a bit older this became every week just for the day
And then now the arrangement is every other weekend.
So just to clarify, I don’t live with them so this is only my perspective from what I see.
My sister has been raised quite spoilt. It’s ironic because my mum only had one child so you’d think I’d be the one being spoilt. But nope. They let my sister have everything her way, even at my expense. Some examples:
I’ve always had Christmas Eve with my mum, because my dad refused to take my “Santa Presents” from my mum because it wouldn’t be fair on my sister, meaning he always wanted us to have the exact same things. But like… that’s just not how santa works
When I was little and loved Lego friends, I always wanted this specific set called Olivia’s Treehouse. But they discontinued it, so instead I wanted Olivia’s House. But my sister also wanted Olivia’s House. And it became a massive fight. And like. As a parent this is when I would’ve told my sister, your sister wanted this set first and had her heart set on it, so you should choose a different set instead since you only started wanting it today. Or Yknow just buy both sets because it was with our money. BUT because my D and SM would allow my sister to play with my toys when I wasn’t there, that wasn’t an option, and because fuck me ig the other wasn’t an option either. So in the end I just gave up and got a cruise ship. The cruise ship was pretty neat but I was really upset about it.
When my dad got a computer we would take turns playing it….. yeah take turns. My sister would play for hours while I watched. When it was my go she’d constantly beg me for it to be her go. D and SM did nothing about this.
When I also started getting technology at around 7-9, the rule was if I was going to bring it to their house, I had to share it. My mum didn’t want my sister playing with the expensive devices she’d bought for me so I just wasn’t allowed them.
So. As you can imagine, these sorts of rules and behaviours haven’t done much for my sister now she’s older. Though I will say, around the time I was transitioning from visiting every weekend to only every other weekend, my D and SM went through a really rough patch. They argued every weekend and the tension was always really thick. At this point in time my sister had a fairly normal attitude but now looking back on the way my D and SM would speak to each other it’s very similar.
My sister acts so entitled. Everything is viewed from a lense of is it fair to her. Now I only see her for about 4 hours every other weekend so I know this isn’t a full representation of who she is, but these are some examples:
She wants pizza for dinner every time I see her. Sometimes I want Chinese. If I do want Chinese it often becomes a fight. The only time she didn’t fight back was my birthday so at least that’s cool. But yeah even if me, D and SM all want Chinese, it’s unfair because we’re ganging up on her making her look bad and forcing her to have something she doesn’t want.
We have to watch exactly what she wants to watch. I’ll happy watch whatever they want to even though my taste is quite different. At long as there’s not too much gore or psychological horror I’m okay with it.
But here’s where the REAL rant comes in. Because yes. This was all building up to this moment. You see, my step mum asked my little queer self what drag race was like, and she watched it out of curiosity. Long story short, she got obsessed with it, and so did my dad. So every time I go see them we watch it together. Every time I’ve missed a weekend because of other commitments, my dad would tell me that SM was disappointed and excited for me to come round next because she’d get to watch another episode of drag race. It’s so wholesome T—T. HOWEVER. Have you guessed it? Yep. Sister doesn’t like drag race. So usually we’d put on an episode immediately after I got there before my sister would come downstairs for dinner. This arrangement worked fine for the majority of the series. It was only right at the end where things got loose.
I went to theirs for New Years Eve, and we had 2 episodes left. So my D and SM really wanted to finish it that night. We watched 1 episode before she came downstairs, all good, watched something else as we ate dinner. And then my SM told my sister their plan of watching another episode. “But it’s not fair on me I don’t want to”. Fine. So we watched a film instead. She gave us permission to watch the finale at about 11:30pm, which I pointed out was just too late so we’d have to watch it next time.
Yesterday was next time. When I got there my sister was already downstairs. So I had no idea whether she’d let us watch it with her present or not. Answer was no.
So we were going to watch the sequel to the film we watched on NYE, but then I saw it was about 2 and a half hours. At this point, with an episode of Drag Race on top, I probably wouldn’t’ve gotten home until like 10:30-11pm. And Yknow my step mum’s solution… TO WATCH DRAG RACE ANOTHER WEEKEND.
And I just snapped. I never snap but I snapped. I told them no I didn’t want to wait because we’d already waited after NYE. AND that they’d both texted me saying they were excited to watch it and it made me sad thinking they’d have to wait. My sister was all like I didn’t say you couldn’t I just said not now moany. So we put something else on that she wanted to watch, which was shorter, while we ate dinner. And then we watched the finale. D and SM were very proud of themselves coz they guessed the winner correctly.
And just the cherry on top. After it was finished my SM whispered that she wanted to watch season 2 now. But my sister chimed in saying “you’re going to watch another series? I hope not.” How fucking selfish can you be towards your own mum…
Like, the logic isn’t logic-ing dad 
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