As someone who has lost interest in groups because of fandoms, it’s just something that naturally happens. It sucks coz it’s never the idols’ faults. But seeing these people insult and say the most vile things about other innocent people while using the faces of these idols to do so, eventually I just begin to have that association with the face and what’s being said. And then, it begins to lead me to just never want their groups to succeed because I don’t want these horrible people to get the satisfaction of being bullies and then getting what they want. I think if other people have the ability to ignore that, then it’s awesome, but for me sometimes that association is just too strong and I can’t get over it
But you’re right, kpop also isn’t that deep. Most of the time, if I have the ability to completely unstan a group because of their fandom, I wasn’t that in love with their music in the first place. It’s more of a last straw thing